Child Guidance By Ellen G White 73103u

Child Guidance Chapter 13 Train the Child to Yield—The little ones, before they are a year old, hear and understand what is spoken in reference to themselves, and know to what extent they are to be indulged. Mothers, you

should train your children to yield to your wishes.This point must be gained if you would hold the

control over your children, and preserve your dignity as a mother. Your children quickly learn just what you expect of them, they know when their will conquers yours, and will make the most of their

victory. It is the veriest cruelty to allow wrong habits to be developed, to give the law into the hands of the child and let him rule. Christian Temperance and Bible Hygiene, 68.

Give Nothing for Which Children Cry—One precious lesson which the mother will need to repeat

again and again is that the child is not to rule; he is not the master, but her will and her wishes are to be supreme. Thus she is teaching them self-control. Give them nothing for which they cry, even if your tender heart desires ever so much to do this; for if they gain the victory once by crying they will expect to do it again. The second time the battle will be more vehement. Manuscript 43, 1900.

Never Permit Display of Angry ions—Among the first tasks of the mother is the restraining of ion in her little ones. Children should not be allowed to manifest anger; they should not be

permitted to throw themselves upon the floor, striking and crying because something has been denied them which was not for their best good. I have been distressed as I have seen how many parents

indulge their children in the display of angry ions. Mothers seem to look upon these outbursts of

anger as something that must be endured, and appear indifferent to the child’s behavior. But if an evil is permitted once, it will be repeated, and its repetition will result in habit, and so the child’s character will receive an evil mold. The Signs of the Times, March 16, 1891.

No Wavering or Indecision—Perverse temper should be checked in the child as soon as possible; for the longer this duty is delayed, the more difficult it is to accomplish. Children of quick, ionate

disposition need the special care of their parents. They should be dealt with in a particularly kind but firm manner; there should be no wavering or indecision on the part of the parents in their case. The

traits of character which would naturally check the growth of their peculiar faults should be carefully nourished and strengthened. Indulgence of the child of ionate and perverse disposition will result in his ruin. His faults will strengthen with his years, retard the development of his mind, and

overbalance all the good and noble traits of his character. Pacific Health Journal, January, 1890. An Example of Parental Self-control Is Vital—Some parents have not control over themselves. They do

not control their own morbid appetites or their ionate temper; therefore they cannot educate their

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children in regard to the denial of their appetite, and teach them self-control. Pacific Health Journal, October 1897.

If parents desire to teach their children self-control, they must first form the habit themselves. The

scolding and faultfinding of parents encourages a hasty, ionate temper in their children. The Signs of the Times, November 24, 1881. Weary Not in Well-doing—If parents would take up their God-given work and would teach selfrestraint, self-denial, and self-control to their children, both by precept and example, they would find that while they were seeking to do their duty, so as to meet the approval of God, they would be

learning precious lessons in the school of Christ. They would be learning patience, forbearance, love, and meekness; and these are the very lessons that they must teach to their children. After the moral sensibilities of the parents are aroused, and they take up their neglected work with renewed energy, they should not become discouraged or allow themselves to be hindered in the work. Too many become weary in well-doing. When they find that it requires taxing effort, and constant

self-control, and increased grace, as well as knowledge, to meet the unexpected emergencies that arise, they become disheartened, and give up the struggle, and let the enemy of souls have his own way. Day after day, month after month, year after year, the work is to go on, till the character of your child is

formed, and the habits established in the right way. You should not give up and leave your families to drift along in a loose, ungoverned manner. The Review and Herald, July 10, 1888.

Never Lose Control of Yourselves—Never should we lose control of ourselves. Let us ever keep before

us the perfect Pattern. It is a sin to speak impatiently and fretfully or to feel angry—even though we do not speak. We are to walk worthy, giving a right representation of Christ. The speaking of an angry word is like flint striking flint: it at once kindles wrathful feelings.

The man or woman who preserves the balance of the mind when tempted to indulge ion stands

higher in the sight of God and heavenly angels than the most renowned general that ever led an army to battle and to victory. Said a celebrated emperor when on his dying bed, “Among all my conquests

there is but one which affords me any consolation now, and that is the conquest I have gained over my own turbulent temper.” Alexander and Caesar found it easier to subdue a world than to subdue

themselves. After conquering nation after nation, they fell—one of them “the victim of intemperance, the other of mad ambition.” Good Health, November, 1880 par. 7.

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